The reason is thrown out of the window when emotions enter from the door. Just like that. Furiously. Abruptly. Without warnings. That is the magical about them, hah? Or do we call "magic" what we haven't tried to figure out yet?
Emotions are complex reactions triggered by the relationship between our inner self and the outside world. This relationship is dynamic as its two components. The problem arises when we try to learn and control the outside world while neglecting the inner self's identity. The most tangible case where emotions awaken, get flesh and bones, and we find ourselves overwhelmed, is the microseconds we bump into an irresistible temptation. Again furiously, abruptly, and without warnings. Indeed, temptations constitute -allow me to say- a perfect example of emotional dissonance. Let's explore why.
Temptations may have various forms, ranging from a sweet indulgence such as a chocolate bite to condemned criminal activities like stealing. The thing about temptations is that their level of complexity or clash with established ethics codes goes hand-in-hand with the bearer's inner self. For instance, you know you like chocolate so when you say to yourself that "I am going on a diet" and someone brings you chocolate, a red siren echoes inside your head "WATCH OUT TEMPTATION" filling you with guilt, a sparkle of nostalgia and a huge wondering: To taste or not to taste?
However, within more contextual circumstances the question "to taste or not to taste" can be obnoxiously torturing especially when the temptation is relatively unknown. The allure of fulfilling these cryptic aspects of a temptation sparks curiosity and may increase the volition to succumb.
But wait a minute, how do we know we face a temptation when we have never tasted it before?
It is when the mere thought of its indulgence triggers your anticipation of actual realization. And if there is a "what if" somewhere lurking, expect an emotional rollercoaster.
Let's take a trending and conflicting concept that may have recently caused multiple emotional rollercoasters to many of you: Engaging in a Situationship with the X ( please feel free to fill in the blank on your own)
Picture this: You find yourself entangled with someone in a complex and undefined connection. There’s a magnetic pull, drawing you closer to them, igniting sparks of romantic and sexual interest. However, amidst the allure lies the apprehension of ambiguity, fear of vulnerability, and uncertainties about the future. In this delicate dance between feelings and rationality, you grapple with the question of whether to indulge in the temptation of exploring a deeper connection or to hold back, safeguarding yourself from potential heartache or unnecessary drama.
May I make it a little more interesting?
Situationships are generally not new for you, some better than others, BUT what if you started a situationship with this X person?
Indeed, the situationship context accentuates the complexity of emotions, with both parties treading the thin line between friendship and something more. It’s essential to recognize and acknowledge these inhibited passions as they emerge, for they often represent unspoken desires longing to be explored. However, within this entangled web of emotions, self-awareness is paramount. Understanding the underlying motivations and fears can provide valuable insights into what truly drives these feelings.
As in many other temptation cases, you have to think about why this is a temptation for you. Is it about the situationship itself? Is it about the person you're seeking a connection with? Or is it about yourself not being in control when engaging with this person? Any external factors playing backstage?
The helpful, as well as the tricky part, is that your temptation is not an object or an action, it is an emotional interaction with another human being. This can be helpful because you have somebody else in this emotional bras de fer arena to sort this out. The tricky aspect is the compatibility of your needs on how to sort it out.
In this more perplexed scenario, a pragmatic approach becomes crucial. When you determine the real causes of your tempting desires then you have to think about your mental wellbeing and your personal growth. Usually, when I say this to people, they answer, "Ooh okay so I will ignore this desire and I will not do anything". Em, it doesn't exactly work like that. You see every cryptic temptation, if aggressively suppressed, can create cumulated inhibited passions that will unfold later and potentially explode. These temptations should be explored and resolved regardless of their realization. The key is to demystify the temptation's indulgence and understand that some exist to give us smiles and others to give us lessons about what we want and don't want to be. Nobody learned to stand up without falling. And you can't control this possibility, what you can do is not fall for the same reason. Adjusting this affirmation to the temptation dimension, you can't control the possibility of a negative temptation experience, you can control how many times this will happen.
For the situationship specifically, by openly communicating and discussing emotions, expectations, and boundaries, both individuals can navigate it with more clarity. While it’s natural to feel drawn to the temptations of intimacy and connection, a pragmatic outlook allows for informed decisions.
Ultimately, the key lies in striking a balance between embracing the allure of these tempting desires and honoring your authentic self. By embracing vulnerability and engaging in open communication, you can shed light on the enigmatic aspects of a context and, with clarity, decide whether to seize the moment or chart a different course.
Living temptations are neutral concepts with notable emotional load. Their final positive or negative outcome comes down to the mirror we choose to hold after their fulfillment.
When Identifying the sources of your tempting desires, you unveil a hidden part of yourself. Before you decide to tame, suppress, or unfold it, make sure you understand it.